As human beings, we all crave love and connection. Deep within us lies a profound need to be seen, heard, and understood. These needs are not just desires; they are essential to our well-being. But what happens when these needs go unmet during our formative years?

The moment we felt unseen or unheard as children is the moment parts of us began to believe we weren’t good enough as we were. These parts, fearful for their safety or acceptance, retreated behind a mask. To cope, they started playing unconscious roles, forming identities and personas based on the conditional environments and people around them.

These roles were survival mechanisms—ways to get our needs met externally. They created an illusion of control, a belief that we could manage how we felt about ourselves and how others perceived us by trying to control people or situations. Unfortunately, this coping strategy often led to an internal energetic prison, trapping these parts of us in cycles of fear, rejection, and unmet needs.

The Reflection of Others

If you pay close attention, life has a way of mirroring your internal world. The people you encounter often reflect parts of yourself back to you. While this can be uncomfortable, it’s also an incredible opportunity for growth.

The illusion of control—the idea that we can manage our emotions and experiences by controlling external factors—keeps these parts of us trapped in that energetic prison. This prison is not just metaphorical; it’s vibrational, stored in the body and perpetuated by the unconscious mind.

My Journey of Unmasking

Growing up without a father and in an environment marked by alcoholism and domestic violence, I developed many unconscious roles. These roles shielded me from the pain of abandonment and rejection but also disconnected me from my true self. For over 30 years, I neglected these parts of me, avoiding the hurt they carried and failing to give them the unconditional love they needed.

In 2020, my spiritual awakening changed everything. For the first time, I began to see these shadow parts of myself with clarity. Slowly, I gathered the courage to face them, opening my heart to their pain and allowing myself to feel the abandonment I had long suppressed. It wasn’t easy, but it was necessary.

The Science of Healing

One of the most transformative realizations in my journey was discovering the connection between quantum physics and our emotional lives. Quantum physics shows us that everything in the universe is energy, including us. We are energetic beings having a human experience.

Mind and matter are intimately connected; you cannot separate them. This means that the beliefs you hold in your mind shape the experiences you have in your body. Your unconscious programming—formed in childhood—plays a significant role in the roles you adopt and the relationships you attract.

Becoming the Guardian of Your Inner World

Healing begins with awareness. When you use your conscious mind to observe the parts of yourself that show up in your relationships, you can start to understand their needs. By meeting these needs consciously, you free these parts from their energetic prison.

The goal isn’t to control others or the environment but to cultivate a strong sense of self. This allows for open, honest communication in relationships without projecting hurt or pain. When you expand your heart in this way, you send a signal to the universe that you are ready to receive unconditional love. Those who aren’t aligned with this vibration will naturally drift away, but that’s okay. You can still love and accept them where they are on their journey.

Love Yourself Like the Divine Does

Your consciousness programs your mind, and your mind programs your body. You hold the power to free yourself from the roles and masks you’ve worn to survive. Remember:

You are already worthy, whole, and complete. Healing isn’t about becoming someone new; it’s about rediscovering and loving the parts of you that have always been there. Love your parts like the divine loves you—unconditionally, wholly, and without judgment.